Happy Birthday!
My middle child of my Octane Trio born in the gas pump years 1987, 1989, and 1993 called me this morning after we’d played phone tag while he was moving his family into their new house on the South Carolina coast on his birthday yesterday.
“Mom, I had a wonderful birthday – ate a huge plate of crab legs at The Boathouse for dinner last night. But we got into a long conversation about who exactly should be wished a happy birthday. And I want to congratulate you on having me. Happy birthday, Mom. You did all the birthing. I just showed up. So happy birth day.”
This is my most polite child, the one who always thinks of others before himself. He admitted to two beers with dinner.
“So how old are you, Mom?”
I told him.
“Holy cow! You need to retire. Travel. See the world while you still can…..”
I reminded him that I’ve seen a lot of the world already and that his stepfather is six years older than I am.
Long pause.
“Jesus is coming, anyway, Mom. He’ll be here soon, but I just hope He waits until we’ve had some time to enjoy the new house. And until you’ve traveled some more.”
Another long pause. This is our love language – and there’s an unforgettable reason for the pi$$ing match. I say this to him every single year on his birthday: “Let me remind you that you entered this world peeing all over your own mama!”
We laughed together and said our I love yous before we hung up…..just as we do every time he calls at random and unexpected times to say that he loves me and to tinkle on my day, filling my heart with joy.
I Don’t Want to Be a Workaholic
I don’t want to be a workaholic
No beaches or playgrounds to frolic
To work all day and then all night
No plans “for sure” – a bunch of “might”
I don’t want to live in meetings
“Live to work” is self-defeating
To budgetize and strategize?
My dreams are seen through different eyes!
I don’t want to give up mealtime
Working straight through what-is-real time
Working lunches aren’t for me,
I savor slowly, sip my tea
I don’t want to write reports
and action plans of different sorts
I don’t want to pitch proposals
Constantly at teams’ disposals
I don’t want to dress in suits
Analyze causes down to roots
Don’t give a rip about market trends
Do those matter without friends?
Don’t confine me to four walls
A desk and chair for conference calls
Don’t make me give evaluations
Stay home from family vacations
I don’t want work to be my life
My husband needs a tuned-in wife
My children need a mom who’s there
Whose job is not her only care
My dogs would miss my evening lap
Where else would they curl up and nap?
I don’t want to be a workaholic
I need moments pure bucolic!