I may not be sporting a Rockport, Massachusetts t-shirt, but I do have this.
Every time I scrub dishes, I think of that cute little Sail Loft in Bear Skin Neck, and it takes me back to one of the most scenic United States towns I’ve ever visited.
The VRBO unit had one of these dish brushes in the sink, and I fell in love with it right there in the standing-room-only kitchen in that iconic New England coastal town that still plays steeple hymns at 4 pm on the church organ, probably to remind everyone walking around in this much natural beauty that it might be the closest place to heaven on earth.
Even before I left Massachusetts, I went online and ordered one for myself from Amazon. The Lodge. They may specialize in cast iron, but they make a mean dish brush, too.
As I scrubbed the two crock pots from yesterday’s Meal Train Mississippi Pot Roast and our own MPR dinner with cooked-on carrots and potatoes, I thought back to my walks through this quaint little New England town to take photos of the rocky shore, the sunrise seaglass hunt, the angel wings I found on White Wharf beach in one of the least expected places to ever find a pair (an unquestionable hello from my mother in heaven), and the little wooden boats that looked like they were sitting on glass as they were anchored like lone ducks in the water.
I’ve been looking forward to this weekend for several reasons.
An Indigo Bunting performs acrobatic moves in a tree
I’m cooking dinner for a friend who is now cancer-free after radiation, chemotherapy, and surgery, and I’ll get to see her today for the first time since early June.
I’ll finally finish a quilt for my new granddaughter and get to see the true “rag quilt” look of the final product.
I’ll get to read from the next book in Sarah Donovan’s book club, even though the hammock is out of the question on what is supposed to be the hottest weekend of the summer here.
The weeds that are completely out of control will get handled by someone else.
There’ll be some time for birding before it gets hot outside, when the birds are most active.
There’ll be some time for writing chapters in two books I’m working on with my writing group.
Some pressure washing might happen.
And the other thing that might happen is a trip to an underground bookstore where they sell these candles that use the scents of things in the books they’re named after, like Alice in Wonderland with the unbirthday cake fragrance, and Anne of Green Gables with some lemon and jasmine. A co-worker told me about this place, maybe an hour from here, where she started Christmas shopping last weekend because of all the unique gifts she’d found when her husband took her there as part of her birthday celebration.
For now, I’m settled into my writing chair, enjoying the early morning silence of the house. I’ve taken the boys out for their morning relief romp, and they all came back in and settled back to sleep right away. I can hear a Carolina Wren singing at the top of its lungs through the kitchen window, and the faintest light looks like pinholes through the tree leaves against the eastern side of the Johnson Funny Farm.
Five minutes from now, at a quarter to seven, I’ll be outdoors with a steaming cup of coffee, starting a bird count to mark the species I hear and see.
And I won’t be rushed to get showered and dressed today. I’ll savor my coffee and my own private bird concert on the front porch way out here in our remote corner under the Loblolly pines of rural Georgia and give a thousand thanks for the blessings of another sunrise to enjoy the spectacular splendor of the woods.
Boo Radley had his initial visit with our new vet this week. Halfway down Hollonville Road, on the way into town, he had an accident in the back seat of the car – – he knew something was up when he was leaving the house without his brothers. His ears plastered his neck, his tail stayed tucked underneath him. He trembled and panted the whole time, begging to go home, clinging close to me.
Understand: Boo doesn’t even like me. I went out and rescued this little undernourished, matted knothead, and he came home and declared on DAY 1 that he is his daddy’s dog, which is why we ended up with additional dogs. Fitz is my soul dog, and Ollie is “the guest dog,” requested by one of my grandsons on a visit when he realized that he was the only one without a Netflix-watching lap dog.
The vet offered treats, but Boo is too smart for that. He’s not talking to strangers, and he’s sure not eating any of their candy.
This is Boo – our High-Anxiety Schnoodle, who is as bad as if not worse than a toddler with severe separation anxiety. Only he’s not a toddler. He’s 56 in dog years, a little old grown man, and more curmudgeonly than Tom Hanks in A Man Called Ove.
But we made it through the visit (they decided not to take his temperature and risk displacing that tail firmly guarding the entrance) that consisted of listening to his heart and feeling for any growths, and 48 hours later, we are finally at ease.
Yesterday was the first day of the 2023-2024 school year in my county in rural Georgia, and I left early to avoid the heavy traffic on the one day of the year when it seems every parent drives their kids to school. While my role in the school system has changed from that of a classroom teacher, I still enjoy the energy of the first day of school in any of our school buildings. Backpacks are new, everyone has a pencil, and you can tell by the soles of all the shoes that back-to-school shopping yielded the newest fashionable kicks. Everyone is showered and clean – and mostly well-behaved, since everyone is still outside their comfort zone and a little uncertain of consequence on all the boundaries they haven’t tested just yet. And by everyone, I mean students, parents, teachers, and administrators – all of us!
It’s fascinating to me to read through Gladys Taber’s Stillmeadow Sampler from 1950. Seventy-three years ago in Connecticut, children went back to school after Labor Day and got out at the end of June. Although we return in August in the deep South and get out at the end of May these days, the prevailing school traditions and the perceptions haven’t changed by more than a month in timeline or in thinking in three quarters of a century.
As I begin this day, I’m sharing some of Taber’s timeless insights and sentiments that she describes from her own lifetime of school beginnings. As I read her words, I think of my Great Granny Haynes, who was surely close in age as I do the math of the years and their family structures of that time.
Gladys
School begins and the children waiting for the school bus look like migratory birds themselves in their bright jackets and with that traveling look. They are traveling too on some sort of education, and this is a journey too, a migration from childhood to a larger world. I always feel a nicking ache that I am no longer filling a pencil case and getting schoolbooks for my child.
Kim
I know well this feeling of the nicking ache, from both a parent and teacher perspective. Even though I love what I do as a District Literacy Specialist, I miss being in the classroom – – especially on the first day of school. The bumper crop of a whole new harvest of students comes hesitantly creeping into the classroom, checking out the seating arrangements and all their friends in the class. They still have high hopes that some teacher hasn’t had conversations with the previous teachers enough to know that there are those who shouldn’t be sitting next to their best friends who get them in trouble the same way they get in trouble for laughing in church – hence, they take their assigned seats.
Gladys
Now, as I see a new bevy of school children waiting for the school bus, I wonder what changes the world will bring to them. But I hope for them that they may have a backlog of family love. A child that is confident that he or she is cherished is armed against almost anything life can bring.
Kim
I’ve taught all grades except 4th and 12th throughout my years teaching, and some of the deepest discussions I had with my high school students as we discussed “ancient literature,” are the ways it applies to students today. Whether we were reading Shakespeare or Steinbeck, the universal themes of literature rose to the top like cream rising on a fresh pitcher of milk, standing the test of time and transcending years and geography. I experience the same longings for children today that Taber did in her day – – the hope that there is a backlog of love, and the wonderings about what life will bring – – the universal, lingering hope through the years that children have a strong sense of belonging.
Gladys
Nowadays few mothers have time to read to the children and if they did, someone would have to turn off the television. But there is a special pleasure in being read to or in reading aloud. Long after I could read everything except such words as peripatetic, I pretended I had to be read to every night.
Kim
Still, there is pleasure in 2023 in reading books and living lives vicariously that we could otherwise not live ourselves. Take Taber, for example. I’m basically a fly on her walls, listening to her conversations as I read her words and take in the similarities of our lives and perspectives. In Taber’s day, the television was an enemy of academia; today, it’s technology, cell phones, and social media. And, of course, Netflix. And don’t get me started on AI, because I might warn that we should all be concerned that our grandchildren don’t grow up and marry robots.
Gladys
Judging by what I read and what I hear, the excitement has chiefly gone from education, and this is a pity. My opinion is that we have too many tired teachers. No matter how gifted a man or woman may be, teaching three times as many pupils as is normal and always trying to do extra jobs to supplement the small salary, drains the enthusiasm.
Kim
The more things change, the more they stay the same. Teachers are still tired. Educators are still trying to supplement the small salary. Enthusiasm still wanes in a steady stream from the beginning of the year to the end, and today, unlike in the 1950s, there are even memes with owls that look like wise professors sitting on branches showing a first day teacher and then a last day teacher owl looking like it’s been in a fight with a pack of hungry coyotes and barely made it out alive. That’s how the year goes most often in the grand scheme of a school year.
I read through her calendar year and imagine the timelines of our perceptions, Gladys’s and mine, like those striated layers of earth from different eras, stacked in the mesas of Arizona – – parallel experiences, one then, one now, but the same kind of living with the same concerns and excitement, just new layers of soil to live it all on. And the one piece most interesting? My own parents would have been those young school children in the bright jackets in 1950, migrating on their journey as Taber noted.
And I’m here right now in 2023, on my front porch, looking out over this farm as Gladys did her own in 1950. Me – an egg from the nest of two of those migratory birds who has raised her own fledglings, who are now raising their own fledglings.
For weeks, I’ve been watching and waiting for the figs to ripen, and almost overnight the first wave is ready for the picking. I saw the purple-brown fruits last evening and ran inside to fetch a plastic bowl and summoned my husband to bring his long arms and reach the branches down for me so that I could pick them. Together, we got what we could reach. It was too late to fire up the tractor, though. Usually, he raises me up in the bucket so that I can pick from the tip-top of the tree. That’ll happen after work today.
For now, we have our first bowl full, and they are plump and heavy.
But that’s not all that happened yesterday.
I finally caught a glimpse a bird I’ve been hoping to see for the past few years. Up until yesterday, I had only heard them. They live here on this farm, and I hear them in the wee hours of the morning, when it’s still dark. Ironically, I’d conceded our long game of hide and seek in yesterday morning’s post and declared them the winners. It’s as if one of these birds actually read my blog and decided to show a little mercy.
I was in the reading room that overlooks the butterfly garden. From the window that faces southward, I saw a stirring in the trees. A large stirring – – really an extra-large stirring.
Surely not, I thought.
It wasn’t dark. Just a couple of minutes before 8 p.m. on the nose.
It couldn’t be, I told myself.
I ran for my binoculars and searched the dense tree line for the bird, hoping it was still there when I returned.
I turned the knobs to focus and zoomed in as close as I could get.
Sure enough, just as I’d thought.
There it was, sitting on a pine branch, facing the house.
I could barely contain my excitement, yelling for my husband to come quickly, but not yelling loudly enough to scare off my buddy. I handed off my binoculars to him, and counted back the trees, pointed to the limb and actually used fractions to direct him 2/3 of the way up the Loblolly Pine to the Great Horned Owl grasping the branch with both feet.
We stood in awe, watching this great nocturnal bird of prey turn his head all around, watching the ground below for movement, like the embodiment of a Mary Oliver poem with wings.
It was fantastic to see. I still have shivers just thinking about the magnificent stature of this amazing creature and its commanding but camouflaged and silent presence.
After a few moments, he dove to the ground in pursuit of something he’d spotted, and just like that he vanished into the woods to feast on his catch.
And I’m burning with owl fever now, wishing desperately that he had a little camera attached to him like a policeman wears a bodycam, so I could have his night vision and see where all he goes and what he does. I’d have to hide my eyes when it came time for him to kill the bunnies and field mice and other critters, but I’d lose sleep for weeks just watching how he lives his days and nights.
Today was a treasure – ripe figs and Great Horned Owls. Life doesn’t get much more exciting.
A couple of autumns ago, I found some summer patio furniture on a ridiculous clearance sale and bought two loveseats and two coffee tables for the front porch.
I knew I’d like them, but I had no idea how much peace they would bring to my life. As an early riser, I can sit outdoors in the morning in the most extreme heat of the summer, before the sun comes up, to begin the day writing and listening to the treetop concert of the Johnson Funny Farm.
I rise at 5 each morning. I shower, get dressed, put a little color on my face, and brew a cup of Eight O’Clock coffee in the Keurig. From there, I take my computer, phone, and lap desk out to the porch to savor my morning writing time.
Most days, I also do a little birding in the mornings. I listen as much as I watch. We have two Great Horned Owls who chat over their coffee, too, back and forth across the east side of the farm. I like to try to spot them through my binoculars when the sun is high enough to see through the shadows of the Loblolly Pines. So far, they are winning our game of hide and seek.
The woodpeckers are a different story. They put on a show most mornings. We have Pileated Woodpeckers, Downy Woodpeckers, Hairy Woodpeckers, and Red-Bellied Woodpeckers. I keep watching for a Yellow-Bellied Sapsucker, but they keep not showing up. On any given morning, there are as many as 25 species of birds flitting through the trees, singing, and bringing joy to the start of my day.
The Ruby-Throated Hummingbirds dart around, squabbling over whose feeder is whose and avoid mid-air collisions at every turn, even though I don’t see how. As much as I anticipate the cooler weather of fall, I’ll be sad to see them move on, especially the ones who like to hover two feet from my face – the only birds who take the time to look me in the eye and thank me for the all-you-can-drink nectar. This month, they will begin their migration to Florida for the winter, like so many people who seek the same warmth.
Others are here with us all year and have no travel plans in the coming weeks – the Northern Cardinals, the Carolina Wrens, the Blue Jays, the Tufted Titmouses, and the Mourning Doves. We’ll wave goodbye to our summer guests soon, and stand ready to welcome the whole fold back next spring.
And perhaps it’s a little extra, but I can’t help worrying about my little hummers. I want to pack them a picnic for the trip and ask them to text me when they arrive safely and put a little teeny-tiny GPS tracker on them to see where they go for Christmas.
Somehow, I think they know I’ll be watching and waiting for them from my front porch seat, coffee in hand, ready to greet them next April and celebrate their long-awaited return.
I have a new little granddaughter I can’t wait to meet! Two of her older brothers had a stomach bug last weekend, so I’m working hard on her quilt so that I can take it to her when we visit. Each of my grandchildren has a quilt or blanket that I’ve made for them or that we’ve made together. I make these so that someday, when I am gone, my grandchildren will have a piece of the past that binds us together.
Magnolia May (“Noli”) is welcomed by her sister Saylor Reese and brothers Beckham Cash, River Dawson, and Sawyer Wilson, and her three labs – Boone, Sky, and Eli. Plus, she has a family tree full of aunts and uncles, cousins, and grandparents ready to dress her in all the pinkest outfits and lacy bows.
Quilt
Today, I stitched squares
Forever, you’ll remember
These arms full of love
Noli’s Quilt Layout PatternBeckham’s quiltSawyer’s QuiltRiver’s QuiltSaylor’s QuiltMaking Aidan’s blanket together (we went shopping for his fabric together so he could choose)So they remember
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On Sundays when Dad is preaching, we tune in to You Tube to hear his sermon. Since we live 5 hours northwest of St. Simons Island, Georgia, we can’t be there as often as we’d like.
In the 1970s, we’d drive to the First Baptist Church on Ocean Boulevard from the pastorium at 208 Martin Street, and some days I would even ride my bike there with a friend on Wednesday nights in the summer. Those were the days when the world was still safe. I like to go there in my mind, but it’s a little dangerous, because I find myself wanting to stay back in time.. I worry about the state of the world today, and to compare now to then is…..well, heartbreaking.
I think back on those days of riding my banana seat bike and my fancy wheel spokes that were all the rage back then, and how we rode up Mallery Street to Demere Way, and turned by the ball fields to ride through more neighborhoods.
These were Wednesday Night Supper neighborhoods with the kinds of houses that have sidewalks out front, walkways to the door, and monkey grass lining the walkways in yards of thick centipede grass – – the kind of lawns you could walk on barefoot and go running through the sprinklers in the summertime. The kinds of houses made of brick, with carports to the left of the front door, and swag draperies in the living room windows (with sheers) that face the road, and mailboxes still attached to the house by the front door – – where there is a walking mailman. The kinds of houses with shade trees in the front yard and azaleas lining the edge, with flower beds under the front windows. The kinds of houses with front porches and colorful metal sofa gliders.
When I drive through a neighborhood today and see these kinds of houses, they’re the kind that make me stop, take it all in, and know in my heart that someone’s cooking a Wednesday Night Covered Dish Supper Casserole in the kitchen, and that if I just drive slowly and roll down my window, I can smell the glazed pineapple hams and chocolate cakes and chicken and rice and butter beans and creamed corn and dinner rolls wafting right out their windows. There’s no more blessed food in the history of church socials than Wednesday Night Supper meals, and it takes me straight back to the good old days.
So on Sunday mornings before we watch church, sometimes I close my eyes and ride my bike down those streets of my childhood, past the ballfield where Dad still lives minus Mom who’s waiting for him to appear someday at Heaven’s gate, and look up through the Live Oak trees forming a canopy over the quaint streets. I think of how life was then – our dog, Bridgett, always greeting us or sending us off at the door, Mom in her hand-sewn dresses and Pappagallo sandals and a decoupaged wooden octagon purse with its swinging tortoise shell handle, and Dad with his sideburns in his polyester plaid suit and wide tie with white patent leathers, and my little brother with his curly locks of hair that always led people who didn’t know us to think he was my precious little sister. And me. Me with my dress that matched Mom’s, the mother-daughter dress days before they became so wildly popular two decades later, the mother-daughter dress days that happened because there was enough fabric left over to make another dress and stretch every penny in a preacher’s budget, and with a pair of wooden clogs or Bass Sunjuns or Mary Janes, it was groovy or classy or swell.
And suddenly, my heart is ready to hear what the Good Lord has for me today.
A favorite Saturday morning hangout in our corner of the world over here in middle Georgia is 1828 Coffee Company. We go there some Saturday mornings for the best local cup of coffee, cinnamon roll, cheese grits, and breakfast casserole. Even though they don’t open until 9:00 a.m. on weekends (a little different business model for a coffee shop), and even though I will have had at least two cups of coffee by then, and even though I’ll be counting a single Weight Watchers point with Chobani Zero Sugar Yogurt and a fresh diced peach, we will go.
My husband, who loves all things food but is a creature of habit to the degree that if he ever goes missing, I’ll know to start the search party hounds in all the local Chick Fil As, loves this coffee shop on the Zebulon, Georgia square. It’s a restored, quaint place with a 100% Zebulon, Georgia vibe perhaps like no other place in our county.
You can offer him any breakfast nook anywhere, but he’ll pick 1828 over a full breakfast every time just because of the atmosphere. I don’t believe it is the sustenance alone that draws him back again and again. It’s the place, with its ambiance and friendly people. It’s the originality of a place from the past, pulsing with life in the present. It’s “sure ’nuff” Georgia culture, a sense of deep-rooted belonging that anchors a person to a place where they can talk for an hour with most anybody who walks through the door, call them by name, and ask about all their relatives past and present, and conjure memories like a pop-up picture book that only they can see.
If you were here having coffee with us, we’d show you our county. We’d drive you down the dirt roads and stop at the meadow with the holy cows who run toward a cross at feeding time. We’d take you to the Strickland Building where they filmed Cold Sassy Tree in the late 1980s, and show you the exact spot on the courthouse square where a naked James Cromwell appeared in a movie scene for Tank and the same little old ladies who’d called to complain about it and wanted it stopped actually showed up for a front-row spot to watch it being filmed.
Then we’d show you Pike County Schools today and where they were located in the late 1800s and tell you all about one of the four Georgians who was aboard the Titanic when it sunk. Only the woman, Lilly Futrelle, survived. Her husband, Jacques Futrelle, a Georgia writer who was born in Pike County on April 9, 1875, died on the ill-fated Titanic. Futrelle, who had celebrated his 37th birthday the night before he and his wife Lily May Peel Futrelle set sail to return from their tour of Europe, along with two other men from Georgia, perished. Lily told friends that if he’d been a drinker, he might have lived a longer life, because he may have gotten drunk at his party and missed the boat that next morning. Instead, the last she saw of him was from her seat in only a half-filled Lifeboat 16 as he stood next to John Jacob Astor smoking a cigarette on the deck of the sinking ship.
So while we might have taken you to his grave here in Pike County, it’s not here in Pike County. He’s buried in the deep belly of the ocean.
But like all hometown Pike County folks who know everybody and all their family members, we can tell you that Jacques does have a cenotaph at Poplar Springs Methodist Church Cemetery in Adrian, Johnson County, Georgia, on the bottom of the headstone of his mother. His mother’s obituary cites grief over her son’s death as the direct cause of her own death at 66. His father is buried in Atlanta’s historic Oakland Cemetery in the Masonic lot, having died of nephritis. His sister Elberta, buried in North Carolina, lived in nearby Barnesville for a time and was the only female life-long charter member of the Massachusetts State House Press Assocation at the time of her death. His wife, Lily, lived to be 91 and is buried in Massachusetts. Her grave is now marked, but for a long time was not, and the newspapers did not report her death when it occurred. Jacques’ son, who bears his name, lived to be 80 and died on my 13th birthday (July 8) in 1979; he’s buried in Maryland. His daughter Virginia Raymond is buried in Massachusetts, but there are no records of her death.
Since those graves are all a bit of a drive from here, we might take you to A Novel Experience on the Zebulon square to look for one of his books.
Jacques Futrelle – Picture from Encyclopedia Titanica
Futrelle Family – Picture from Encyclopedia Britannica
Finally, we’d bring you to the Johnson Funny Farm and throw the hammock up between your choice of the thousands of Loblolly pines out here and offer you a glass of sweet tea in a Mason jar and invite you to get lost in the pages of your new book as you hear Futrelle’s voice transcend the depths of the ocean and tickle your reading tastebuds right here in the county where he was born.
Common Threads 