How I Learned to Drive

This month, I’m writing posts from prompts in the Writing Down the Bones Card Deck by Natalie Goldberg, shared with me by my friend Barb Edler of Iowa. Today’s post inspires us to write about how we learned to drive.

In a Volkswagen

I learned how to drive in a

red Squareback stick shift

I still remember those days vividly – especially the day I pulled out in front of a car coming around a curve to make a left-hand turn at the last minute, thinking I had time. I don’t know how I avoided a collision, but I am convinced it was the other driver’s reaction time that kept us from wrecking. My mother was on the passenger side, and I remember the look of sheer fear on her face. She screamed, and the other driver laid on the horn.

This is what comes to mind when I think of the patience of my mother. She didn’t take my license away or put me on restriction – she quietly reminded me of the consequences of decisions that are made too quickly without enough forethought. Unintended consequences often have impacts on others that can’t always be undone.

Some lessons are never forgotten, and some words come rippling back right through the years.

Last night at our County Commissioners’ meeting, in a count of 4 to 1, our Commissioners did something no other Board has ever done in Georgia history. In a “hold my beer” move by one Commissioner who confused courage with a lack of sense, he made a motion to reject the school board’s millage rate proposal. The consequences for this are now that our county Tax Commissioner will not be able to collect taxes until the millage rate is submitted. The deadline is September 1. Today is August 27. I fear for the ripple effect that may close our library doors or other county departments; this impacts far more people than school leaders who are charged with making the best decisions for their schools and taxpayers worried about pennies on the dollar in their own pockets.

The one vote against this act of senselessness was my husband, I’m proud to say. As one who rarely comments or gets involved in politics on any level, I applaud his standing up for what is right in the face of overwhelming opposition. He voted for what was right.

It’s comforting to know that there are drivers who, unlike me in my learning days, do not put others in jeopardy. I rest fully in the confidence of his ability to lead and to drive. I pray for the ones who do not know what they do not know and do not count the costs.

No, Thank You

This month, I’m writing posts from prompts in the Writing Down the Bones Card Deck by Natalie Goldberg, shared with me by my friend Barb Edler of Iowa. Goldberg asks us to begin by writing, “No, Thank You…” and to keep going. And each time we get stuck, to return to those words and keep going. Today, I share a Nonet – a poem consisting of nine lines with that number of syllables on each line in ascending or descending order.

No, Thank You Nonet

no thank you to the constant going

I’m ready to have a weekend

when I can just stay at home

and bask in no deadlines

rest the day away

watch a movie

read a book

walk the

dogs

I’m honored to share a weekly feature with Ethicalela.com’s readers this week as students across the nation return to school. Here is a first-day activity that aims to build connections and strengthen relationships so that learning can thrive in the classroom. Cheers to all teachers who know the fine art of getting their arms around their students and teaching humans – not standards, not curriculum. You’re the real difference-makers in a world that often tries to convince us otherwise. This morning, I raise my mug of coffee to you as you go out into the most fertile fields of all to plant seeds and make change. You, my friend, are a change maker.

A Place I Need to Return To

This month, I’m writing posts from prompts in the Writing Down the Bones Card Deck by Natalie Goldberg, shared with me by my friend Barb Edler of Iowa. Today’s prompt inspires writing about a place we need to return to.

I need to return

to that simple place of peace

so far away now

My Mother’s Hair

This month, I’m writing posts from prompts in the Writing Down the Bones Card Deck by Natalie Goldberg, shared with me by my friend Barb Edler of Iowa. Today, Goldberg inspires us to tell about your mother’s hair – or anyone’s, really. I think of the vignette in The House on Mango Street by Sandra Cisneros as I think of this prompt.

my mother’s hair

was never long like

in that picture

of her with that wig

looking all beehive-ish

with the corkscrew finger curls

tumbling down

against her ears

like the swirl

of blackwater swamp

when something’s churning

underneath

my mother’s hair

was never thick like

her laughter

in that picture

in Dad’s arms

head thrown back

in her Georgia back yard

clipped and curled

short and common

like a wood shaving

whittled and whisper-thin

no, my mother’s hair

was never

long and thick

Thinking About Fiction

This month, I’m writing posts from prompts in the Writing Down the Bones Card Deck by Natalie Goldberg, shared with me by my friend Barb Edler of Iowa. Today we’re inspired to think of a character and write about him/her/them, telling who they are.

all this fiction

all this drama

these problems

these feelings

these backstabbers

these bullshitters

are bigger in life

than they ever

were between any pages

Distractions

This month, I’m writing posts from prompts in the Writing Down the Bones Card Deck by Natalie Goldberg, shared with me by my friend Barb Edler of Iowa. The question at the top of the deck today: How do I distract myself?

Distraction Haiku

I distract myself

in all the usual ways:

social media

cleaning up the house

taking the dogs for a walk

sipping a vino

concerns about news

taking a late siesta

looking at camels

picking my jeans threads

considering the lilies

of another field

planning unplanned trips

wondering about zebras

plugging in the fan

doodling in pen

unmossing the wreaths

counting my quarters

sketching old bottles

remembering shopping with

S&S Green Stamps

coming up with ways

to distract myself is the

order of the day….

Numbers

This month, I’m writing posts from prompts in the Writing Down the Bones Card Deck by Natalie Goldberg, shared with me by my friend Barb Edler of Iowa. Today, Goldberg inspires us to write for ten minutes using a number in every line.

Numbers

these 3 dogs

at 5:00 a.m.

here with me this room with 5 chairs

curl up like tiny zeroes

in their number one choice spots

and snooze as 5:00

turns to 6:00 and my husband ambles in

and makes me my first

cup of Eight o’Clock coffee

all in about 4 minutes

for 2 matching pods

in our pair of mugs

me with two teaspoons of creamer

him with his one

and I count five minutes

until shower time, 6:10

so I can get dressed by 7:00

leave by 7:30

and be to work by 8:00

where I will work until 4:30

stopping at noon

to eat a couple of bites

with a few hungry friends

before returning to count down the minutes……..

Disease

This month, I’m writing posts from prompts in the Writing Down the Bones Card Deck by Natalie Goldberg, shared with me by my friend Barb Edler of Iowa. Today, what’s in the cards is disease. Goldberg invites us to write about any single disease we know directly.

the darkest disease

throughout human history

is no empathy

What Did You Bring

This month, I’m writing posts from prompts in the Writing Down the Bones Card Deck by Natalie Goldberg, shared with me by my friend Barb Edler of Iowa. Today’s post inspires us to write about what we bring – in our purses, on a trip, to a party, in our suitcases, in our book bags or in our cars.

I’m reminded of our adventure book club that met at Barnstormer’s Restaurant in Williamson, Georgia the. month I couldn’t attend. You read that right. I’m reminded of a memory I don’t actually have. We’d recently finished reading a book entitled The Last Flight, where two women change identities to fly off to new lives but then one plane crashes. This inspired us to meet at our local small airport’s restaurant and actually bring a bag of only the five things we would take if we ever left and were limited in our departure possessions. They had to fit in a tote bag or small personal bag you’d carry when flying. We excluded cell phones, chargers, wallets with money/photos, and medications.

Only thing is, that’s when my father was in Hospice in his final hours and I was out of town – so I heard all about what happened at that book club meeting but was not able to attend. Today, this question for the prompt is timely. What would I bring?

5 Things I’d Bring

I’d bring the tiny obsidian dog

to remind me you knew my heart

I’d bring the silver pearl cross

to remind me you knew my faith

I’d bring the pumpkin bread recipe

to remind me you value tradition

I’d bring the bracelet with the cardinal

to remind me you know transcendending love

of motherhood

I’d bring the memories

to carry you in my heart forever

Open Write Day 3 of 3 August 2025

Our host for the third and final day of the August 2025 Open Write is Margaret Simon of Louisiana. You can read her full prompt here. Today, Margaret inspires us with this prompt, in bold below:

Laura Purdie Salas held a weekly writing challenge for children’s poetry writers called “15 Words or Less.” She would post a photo and poets would write a quick poem inspired by the photo. Quick writes are good ways to exercise the writing muscle. When Laura decided to stop this weekly prompt, I decided to take it on. I changed the title to “This Photo Wants to be a Poem” and post a photo each week on my blog, Reflections on the Teche. (Teche is pronounced “tesh” and is a Native American word meaning snake. The bayou that runs behind my house is the Bayou Teche.)

You can see the photo at the link to the full prompt above.

Reflections

mirrored hearts reflect

ripples and imperfections

embracing the truths