Family Peace in a Peppermint Shake
We can’t decide where to go
for dinner, again,
but with Krystal the looming threat
we need hope.
We actually need a lot more than
hope, to be truthful.
We need peace.
The matriarch died in February
after a yearlong battle with
brain cancer
so the sons take their dad
for Tuesday night dinner
every week.
But their sister will not be there –
the one who
who took control of decisions
and didn’t understand they could not
quit their jobs to do all she did
and wanted comfort measures
for a mother who wailed in pain
every day in her corner chair
the one who stopped our food offerings, more worried about diabetes in the midst of stage 4
than the love in a bowl
the one who still refused Hospice
long after it was
so desperately needed
and the stone cold silence began
then the fracture was out on display
like a shattered crystal goblet
as family clusters stood in
different corners at visitation
dishonoring all she stood for
making a mockery of her servant spirit
and then came the uninvite
persuaded by this sister
from the wedding
of her son – a nephew these uncles
had loved all his life
a final earthshaking door slam
and deadbolt as
Pat’s children – her family-
were cut off, cut out, done
and the legacy of a mother who’d
loved each of her children
seared into ashes
are there tears in Heaven?
is there peace for a father
whose heart is torn apart with
these choices
that led to separate meals
even on holidays?
Tonight, maybe –
maybe peace will be found
in conversations, laughter,
stories of fun family memories
around a table in a Chick-fil-A,
in all the little smashed pieces of
chocolate covered candy cane
at the bottom
of a peppermint shake